This is on my favourite quotes as it is still a principle I am struggling to completely integrate into my life and I came across it in one of the most unusual settings. I was attending one of the weekly faculty research seminars, and the presenter repeatedly brought up this quote and it really resonated with me.
Why is it so hard to say NO or taper down on trying to be super man and do everything? I can’t speak for everyone, but I know for me the major causes are:
- I really care what people think of me more than I would like to admit – Therefore, sometimes I am not doing things because it is what my heart is telling me to do but because I need to build up an illusory self-image
- I do not want to let people down – My instinctual response is to never say no to an opportunity, but it is something that has come back to bite me in the ass.
You may be thinking what’s the big deal? This is not that big of a problem, you just may be a little bit stressed out. The real problem is that if you are not taking responsibility for your life and letting what YOU want to do dictate what you do, then you will never be able to develop and give your full gift to the world and you will soon grow resentful and bitter towards the world for sucking the life out of you. This is no way to live.
However, it is obviously easier said than done. However, the ability to say NO is a muscle that must be continuously and progressively worked on. Always push yourself to say NO when you want to say it but would otherwise not. Start off with small things and very soon you will be able to re-capture control of your life.